Female Stages Of Infidelity.
A lot of women during an affair, (or after an affair ends) are confused, and in so much pain, that they think something might be wrong with them. In other words, the intensity of their feelings and the degree to which they are confused, may not seem normal. But the truth is, it is normal. In fact, several years into my research I was able to identify distinctive patterns and behaviors in the women I interviewed. I categorized these into four separate “stages” that women often experience during the course of their long-term relationships. Read More
Affair Confusion: Torn Between Your Head And Your Heart.
Is your head telling you one thing, but your heart is telling you something different? When we’re torn, it simply means that our brain is at war with itself. All of us are driven by two primary drives: autonomy and attachment. As clinical psychologist and sex therapist David Schnarch points out in his book, Intimacy & Desire, “The tension between our desire for sexual variety and our desire for pair-bonding and sexual exclusivity arises in all of us, regardless of gender.”Read More
Affair Emotions: Confusing Feelings With Spikes And Impulses.
Women have a tendency to confuse feelings with impulses. Women confuse the two because they enjoy having their emotions spiked; and they also enjoy spiking and stirring emotions in others, too. Read More
Why Women Cheat And Have Affairs: The Short Answer.
When I meet people and they find out that I’ve written a couple books about female Infidelity, the first question they almost always ask is, “So why do women cheat?” People ask me this question because they’re hoping that I’ll be able to summarize my research in a couple sentences. So I ask them directly, “Do you want the short answer? And sure enough, most people will say, “Yes, give me the short answer”. So here’s the short answer — because they can. Read More