When Your Wife Cheats, Your Mind Often Becomes Your Worst Enemy. Learn How To Use Affirmations To Direct Your Thoughts And Regain Control Over Your Emotions.

Affirmations

In his book, The Miracle Morning, Hal Elrod writes, “Every single one of us has an internal dialogue that runs through our heads, almost non-stop. Most of it is unconscious, that is, we don’t consciously choose the dialogue. Instead we allow our past experiences–both good and bad–to replay over and over again. Not only is this completely normal, it is one of the most important processes for each of us to learn and master. Yet, very few people take responsibility for actively choosing to think positive, proactive thoughts that will add value to their lives.”

Prior to discovering your wife’s affair, you probably didn’t pay much attention to the the incessant stream of thoughts running through your head – but that probably isn’t the case now. If you’re like most men after their wives cheat, your mind has become your worst enemy; and you’re literally being tormented by the thoughts and pictures in your head 24/7.

As Eckhart Tolle tells us in, The Power of Now, says, “The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly—you usually don’t use it at all. It uses you…You believe that you are your mind. This is the delusion. The instrument has taken you over.”

It’s important to understand that the discovery of your wife’s affair didn’t cause the problem of “the instrument taking over” – it simply magnified the problem. If you had learned and mastered the process of directing your thoughts, you wouldn’t be feeling the way you’re feeling now.

Your Thoughts —> Create Your Feelings —> The Way You Think And Feel Determines Whether You Can Save Your Marriage

Your ability to save your marriage is contingent upon your willingness to take responsibility for your mind. You don’t have to wait for your wife to change ‘her mind’ or do what you want in order to think and feel differently. You can actively choose to direct your thoughts and begin the process of feeling better on your own.

Affirmations

Read through the list of example affirmations below and see if any of them “click” for you.  Start by choosing only one or two that feel the best when you read them. Practice saying the affirmation(s) out loud or to yourself multiple times a day; and whenever you catch yourself obsessing or worrying interrupt your negative self-talk with an affirmation.  Note: If the affirmation doesn’t flow easily (almost effortlessly) when you say it out loud or to yourself, just tweak it a little to make is feel more natural for you.

Affirmations to stop self-sabotage:

“I’m going to focus on my own life and happiness – because that’s the key to saving my marriage.”

“I’ve been analyzing everything my wife says and does. And it’s going to be hard to stop. But I know I can do it.

The next start distract myself whenever I catch  myself.

 

Affirmations to interrupt negative thinking:

I’m committed to saving my marriage. So I must focus on my own life and happiness because that’s the key to saving my marriage.

Affirmations to reinforce your commitment:

Affirmations to improve your self-esteem:

but this only makes things reach

 

oI’m committed to saving my marriage. So I must focus on my own life and happiness because that’s the key to saving my marriage.

Even though I don’t know how everything is going to out, I know that everything is going to work out.

 

Affirmations to lift your mood:

Even though I don’t know how everything is going to out, I know that everything is going to work out.

I don’t know why this is happening, but I’m open to what life brings me.

My preference is to stay married to my wife,

I’m ready to give my wife the physical, psychological and emotional space space she needs to make up her mind on her own.

Affirmations to stop self-sabotage:


 

but I’m ready to embrace the changes ahead.

I’m ready to feel better. In fact, my heart is already starting to heal.

I know that everything will turn out for the higher good, even though I don’t know what the higher good is yet.