How Women End Marriages
Passive Endings: Riding Out Your Feelings
Unfortunately most people aren’t aware that there are two distinct ways to end a relationship. As William Bridges explains in his book, Transitions, “Looking back over your ending experiences, what can you say about your own style of bringing situations to a close? Is it abrupt and designed to deny the impact of the change, or is it so slow and gradual that it’s hard to see that anything important is happening? Do you tend to be active or passive in these terminal situations?”
The limbo experience is much easier to understand when you’re aware of the passive endings process. Generally speaking women tend to be passive in bringing situations to a close. In the past, men use to be more abrupt in bringing situations to a close, but that’s no longer the case. As Dr. Glover tells us in his book, No More Mr. Nice Guy, “…each successive generation of men born after World War II has become more and more passive.” In other words, men are now much more like women in bringing situations to a close; and as a result, it’s quite common now for couples to move through a very long drawn out process to end their marriages.
As John Lee explains in his book, The Half Lived Life, “Passivity…is an offense of omission–not–doing or saying what you need to…Passivity compels people to wait in a state of suspended animation until something or someone outside themselves “rescues” them from their current circumstances…”
One of the biggest problems with modern marriage is that men handle relationship issues in a similar way as women .. by waiting .. and waiting — for the “other” person to change. Passive people know that eventually, if they wait long enough, their feelings for their partners will eventually die.
The Process Of Waiting For Your Feelings To Die Can Be Likened To What People Do With Leftover Food.
The process of waiting for your feelings to die can be likened to what people do with leftover food. People often know that they’re not going to eat their leftovers. But they feel guilty throwing away good food, so they put their leftovers in the refrigerator and wait for the food to go bad so they have ‘no choice’ but to throw it away. Couples in limbo do the same thing; they wait for their relationships to deteriorate to a point where they believe they have ‘no choice’ but to divorce.
If you haven’t read the Women’s Infidelity books, that’s where you need to start. In my books, you’ll learn the five goals women are trying to accomplish by staying in limbo, and why ‘one’ of those goals can’t be accomplished, regardless of how long they wait.
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