Hi, I’m Michelle Langley.
I’m a personal development coach who specializes in helping people get “unstuck”. My real passion has always been helping others discover and develop their own unique gifts and talents. However, my life took an unexpected turn when I began to experience the “I’m not happy” feelings in my marriage. At that time, I had been happily married for 4 years and then suddenly, out of nowhere, I began feeling bored and unhappy. In an attempt to figure out what was causing my unhappiness I looked for answers in books, tried to talk to my Mother and eventually went to see a psychologist.
Unfortunately, all of the information I received attributed the way I was feeling to my husband, and similar to a lot of women, I began to view my husband as the culprit too. However, later, through my own research, I discovered that what I was experiencing was actually quite normal. In fact, I learned that women are the most likely to divorce in their late twenties and thirties after an average of 4 years of marriage. During this time, it’s quite common for women to experience a pre-midlife crisis, which is similar to the male midlife crisis, only with an important difference – a difference that can actually make women more likely to cheat than men. This was just a small part of what I learned. But, in short, it appeared I had been following a script – a script that like so many other women, I didn’t even know existed.
I Didn’t Intend To Write A Book
When I began my research, I didn’t intend to write a book. I just wanted answers to help me through what I still consider to be one of the most painful times of my life. And after I found the answers I was looking for, I still didn’t plan to write a book – I just wanted to put this painful period of my life behind me. But, by this time, I had been interviewing men and women for years and had become somewhat known for having information on this subject. As a result, I was regularly contacted by people looking for information and insight who had heard about me from either a friend or an acquaintance. Consequently, I was spending up to twenty hours a week in lengthy conversations explaining my research. Deep-down I knew I was supposed to write a book. Although it took some time for me to delve back into this dark time in my life, I finally wrote Women’s Infidelity: Living In Limbo: What Women Really Mean When They Say, “I’m Not Happy”. Almost immediately I started getting requests for radio and television interviews. I wasn’t surprised by the success of Women’s Infidelity because a) the topic rarely gets discussed; despite the fact that the problem is so prevalent and b) when the topic is discussed, the most important pieces of information are always left out of the conversation.
Female Infidelity Becomes Too Widespread to Ignore
The good news is the media is finally beginning to acknowledge (albeit to a small degree) the widespread problem of female infidelity. The bad news is people are still trying to sell the Disney version of why women cheat. In fact, in recent years, several books and articles have attempted to explain why women are now cheating as much as men. However, very important pieces to this complicated puzzle continue to be left out. The reason for this is twofold: some who write and speak about this subject haven’t done enough research, so consequently they simply regurgitate outdated and stereotypical information that has little to do with the real reasons women; others obviously want to avoid controversy and are afraid to disclose certain key pieces of information because the truth is so contrary to our current beliefs. Unfortunately, though, without these missing key pieces of information, it’s impossible to understand, and to subsequently fix, the real problem occurring in relationships today.
The Truth Can Be Unsettling
The Women’s Infidelity books may be an uncomfortable read for some people because the truth can be somewhat unsettling. But the rewards will be well worth any feelings of discomfort – because after reading the books, it will be as though a veil has been lifted. Once you understand the realities of why women cheat and how they think and process their own sexual indiscretions – you can make informed decisions. This is true whether you are a man trying to figure out his wife or a woman trying to figure out herself.
Wishing you peace,
─ Michelle Langley
Order Women’s Infidelity: Living In Limbo
Learn the REAL reasons women cheat, and:
• Why women lose sexual desire for their husbands
• Why women are more likely than men to become addicted to affair sex
• Why marriage and fidelity can actually be MORE difficult for women than it is for men
• Why women overwhelmingly initiate the majority of all divorces – even when they’re married to good men
• Why and how men unknowingly make the problem worse by doing the opposite of what they need to do to save their marriages
Order Women’s Infidelity II: Breaking Out Of Limbo
Learn how to understand your feelings for your husband, and:
• How to know if your feelings for the other man are real
• How to understand your feelings for your husband – what it really means when you say, “I love him, but I’m not “in” love with him
• How to know if there’s a possibility for a future with the other man
• How to stop your circular thinking
• How to end your confusion and move forward in 7 clearly defined steps