About Michelle Langley

Hi, I’m Michelle Langley. I’m a personal and professional development coach who specializes in helping men and women navigate the waters of infidelity and marital limbo.  This certainly wasn’t the career path I had pictured for myself.  But our lives can take unexpected turns, and sometimes these turns can change our lives in ways that we could have never imagined.

I’ve Been Immersed In Women’s Infidelity Issues For Almost Twenty Years.

I researched female infidelity for more than ten years before writing my first book.  And I’ve been consulting and coaching men and women in this area for almost a decade now, too. However, I didn’t start researching female infidelity in order to write a book or become a consultant and coach. I started researching the subject because I was lost, confused and in a tremendous amount of pain.

A Little About My Story.

Shortly after my 27th birthday, I began to feel very different. I had been happily married for 4 years and then, suddenly out of nowhere, I began feeling bored and unhappy. In an attempt to figure out what was causing my unhappiness, I looked for answers in books, tried to talk to my mother and eventually went to see a psychologist. All of the information I received attributed the way I was feeling to my husband, and similar to the majority of women, I began to view my husband as the culprit too.

Currently, Women Are Initiating 70 – 75% Of All Divorces.

Later, through my own research, I discovered that what I was experiencing was actually quite normal. In fact, women are the most likely to divorce in their late twenties and thirties after an average of 4 years of marriage. During this time, it’s quite common for women to experience a pre-midlife crisis, which is similar to the male midlife crisis, only with an important difference – a difference that can actually make women more likely to cheat than men.

I Discovered Through My Research That I Had Been Following A Script – A Script That Like So Many Women, I Didn’t Even Know Existed.

Unfortunately, society’s preoccupation with male infidelity and male commitment issues has and continues to keep a light from being shined too closely on female infidelity and female commitment issues. The media has finally begun to acknowledge, albeit to a small degree, the widespread problem of female infidelity. But to be clear, female infidelity is one of the most prevalent problems that couples are facing today in their relationships. In fact, numbers from the National Opinion Research Center’s 2016 General Social Survey show that the percentage of wives who reported having affairs rose almost 40 percent — a trend that’s holding steady in 2018, says Tom Smith, director of the survey.

Why I Wrote Women’s Infidelity

I wrote Women’s infidelity for a couple reasons. First, I was acutely aware of how painful and confusing it was to live in limbo; because, in addition to my research, I lived in limbo for several years. So I knew how little information there was available to help people through this difficult time in their lives. Second, I believed I might have made different decisions had I known the information in my books, and I suspected this might be the case for other people, too. So it was (and still is) my sincerest hope that the information in my books helps people to make informed decisions.

— Michelle Langley