How Women End Marriages…
Did You Know There Are Two Distinct Ways To End A Relationship?
Are You An “Active” Or “Passive” Relationship End-er? Most Women Are “Passive-End-ers”
In his book, Transitions, William Bridges asks his readers the following question, “Looking back over your ending experiences, what can you say about your own style of bringing situations to a close? Is it abrupt and designed to deny the impact of the change, or is it so slow and gradual that it’s hard to see that anything important is happening? Do you tend to be active or passive in these terminal situations?”
The limbo experience is much easier to understand when you know how women end relationships. Women end relationships in a very specific way, and the way they do it makes it very hard to see that they’re actually “ending” the relationship. So although your wife’s behavior may seem confusing to you (because that’s the whole point of ending a relationship passively) there’s nothing mysterious about what your wife is doing.
Women End Romantic Relationships By Turning Their Romantic Partners Into Friends
Women not only “wean” themselves away from their partners, but they also “wean” their partners away from them, too. In other words, when women end relationships, they do the exact opposite of “cutting the cord.”
You see, rejecting a lover can be be dangerous; because people often get angry when they’re rejected. In fact, many of us (both males and females) have experienced the anger of an angry jilted romantic partner.
Needless to say, prior to the last couples of decades, breaking up with males was especially dangerous for females; because generally speaking, females are physically weaker than males. As a result, females are hard wired to “wiggle” and “finesse” their way out of relationships.
Put simply, when females break-up with males, they do it in a way that is intended to prevent males from retaliating against them. For example, prior to getting married, females break-up with their boyfriends by transitioning their boyfriends into friends. Transitioning someone from a romantic relationship into a friendship involves a process of “managing down” a person’s expectations (again, this is a process that resembles weaning).
As I explain in Women’s Infidelity II, women typically try to use the same approach on their husbands to end their marriages that they used on boyfriends, prior to getting married. The problem is… it seldom works. Instead, it often causes a great deal of unnecessary pain and suffering—for themselves—for their husbands—and for their children.
Helpful Tip: If you really want to save your marriage, you must resist the temptation to give away your power (allow yourself to be downgraded) in order to avoid rocking the boat. Keep in mind that you can “wait” to make a move until you stabilize your emotions and gain perspective without degrading yourself and lowering your status (in other words, without operating from a subordinate or “disadvantaged” mindset).
If you haven’t read the Women’s Infidelity books, that’s where you need to start. You’ll find out exactly what your wife is thinking, feeling and planning – so you can stop analyzing—and stop operating from a disadvantaged mindset — because a disadvantaged mindset leads to divorce.
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