Affair Guilt

How To Forgive Yourself For Cheating

Relationships often end as a result of infidelity. However, it’s not necessarily because the spouse found out and couldn’t forgive the behavior; it’s often because the person who cheated couldn’t forgive themselves. If you’re trying to come to terms with cheating on your husband, then you need to start viewing cheating for what it is — a bad choice. It’s nothing more and nothing less…. The old adage, “once a cheater, always a cheater” is nothing more than a judgment which is intended to deter people from cheating in the first place. So don’t buy into this belief about yourself. Who you are today is not who you were yesterday. Likewise, who you are in a burning building is very different from who you are at a picnic. Our circumstances at any given moment can change who we are, once we understand this about ourselves we can begin to live at a level of awareness where ‘choosing‘ our behavior becomes possible.

However, prior to living at this level of awareness, cheating can be a little like dieting. So often when people cheat on their diets, they give up and stop trying to diet at all. It can be the same way with cheating. People often give up on their relationships because they cheated. The guilt causes the cheater (just like the dieter) to want to start over ‘later’ with a clean slate.

This is how the cycle plays out for the dieter. The dieter cheats; they go on a binge; they give up on their diet; and they decide to start fresh with a new diet sometime in the future. Likewise, people who cheat on their partners do the same thing — they cheat; they go on a cheating binge… Read More

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Women’s Infidelity: Living In Limbo

Learn The REAL Reasons Women Cheat

• Why women lose sexual desire for their husbands
• Why women are more likely than men to become addicted to affair sex
• Why marriage and fidelity can actually be MORE difficult for women than it is for men
• Why women have such a hard time getting over their affairs emotionally and psychologically
• Why women overwhelmingly initiate the majority of all divorces – even when they’re married to good men
• Why and how men unknowingly make the problem worse by doing the opposite of what they need to do to save their marriages